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    Kickstart 2012 with NLP in Beijing

    The new year is a wonderful time to refocus, renew and connect with what you really want to be doing. In this one-day event, join NLP Trainer Daniel Smith as he uses NLP to guide you through processes that can help you reconnect with what is most important to you and to set targets for the coming year that matter the most – 19 February in Central Beijing

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NLP is…

NLP Trainer, Daniel Smith

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is like an instruction manual for your brain. By studying and modeling extraordinary individuals, NLP has developed a range of techniques and strategies to bring more excellence into your life.

Whether you are a leader looking to get the best from your team…
- Or a parent looking to communicate with your children and spouse…
- Or a coach who wants to help their clients be their best…
- Or an individual looking to get more out of life…

NLP can give you what you need.

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Getting what you want

December 20, 2011 0 Comments

Earlier this week, I was asked whether I could share a secret for successful negotiations and “getting your own way”.

As I replied, the most important ‘secret’ is to know what you really want.

In other words: Know your outcome.

It’s the first step of the old USF (Ultimate Success Formula) or NSF (NLP Success Formula) – Know your outcome, Take massive action, Notice the results and Adjust until you get your outcome. It’s also one aspect of OPA (Outcome-focused, Purpose-driven, Action plan) that Tony Robbins advocates: Know your outcome, Connect with your purpose, and Take action.

And not just the surface of what you want, but your intention.

Nobody just wants to lose weight, or get married, or make more money. Instead, they want what they think they’ll get from having those outcomes and goals – to be more healthy or more attractive, to feel more security or love, to have more fun or adventure. Someone with intense focus on what they really want is immensely powerful because they align themselves behind that outcome in negotiations and in daily decisions, while being far more flexible in finding alternative ways to fulfill their intention and get what they’re after.

Without knowing your intention, it’s easy to get lost or fixated on obstacles. Connecting with your intentions, mission, values and purpose help you remember “why” you are doing something, so that when those obstacles arise, you can enjoy more resilience in overcoming whatever challenges come your way.

So as you prepare for the annual “New Year Resolutions” when you can review the year that has been and the year ahead, I’d encourage you to pause for a moment to reflect, and connect with your intention. And what you want that intention for – not “why” you want something, the reasons, explanations, stories and excuses, but specifically what you think it will give you.

And if you can focus on what you really want, you just might get it…

A few NLP techniques that are relevant here include: Grinder’s Outcome-Intention-Consequences, n-Step Reframe, Well-Formed Outcomes, Core Transformations, SCORE/ Emergent Discovery, Timelines, Outcome Accelerator Pattern…